Updates and New Changes to Our Practice

Life has been a wild ride lately. It’s been beautifully wild and adventurous, and I love it!

I made the decision to move my practice into a larger, more central location, and then I made a commitment to buy a commercial building! Ha! An opportunity presented itself to me and I took it. The space is small, quirky, adorable, and cozy, and it offers me the freedom to create, teach, grow, and learn. Freedom is important to me. I cherish my personal sovereignty, without my freedom I cannot exist. It is important to me that anything I build or create is aligned with my values of being self-reliant, honest, and fair. I value human life. I value the planet. I value peace and prosperity for all humans. It’s challenging as an entrepreneur with my kind of values to enter the world of capitalism. In my experience, capitalism is quite evil. At the same time, I live in the same world as everyone else and need to survive.

When I bought the building, it was actually overwhelming for me to have that much freedom to create with. I’ve never had that before. I was indecisive and hesitant about which direction to go and how to move forward. I was stuck in this state of analysis paralysis for a few weeks, unsure how to proceed, which steps came next, and eventually that underlying fear of not feeling good enough to go after what I want came to the surface. I’ve been pushed harder than I thought I would have been when I decided to do this. Starting a business and being self-employed as a single neurodivergent mother isn’t for the faint of heart! It took me a while, but I took into consideration the needs of the community. I talked to people about what they would want and I figured it out. I make a decision to open a consignment shop in addition to my practice, and I can do both businesses in the same space. Win!

I get to help people and the planet at the same time. I get to maintain my freedom by being self-employed.

One thing about me is I don’t seek to make a ton of money. The more money I make the more the government takes. It’s never been my mission or purpose. I just want to help people, do what I like, and not live in a state of survival. I want a free and simple life. Money is great and all, and it brings comfort as long as we live in a capitalistic world, but we definitely don’t need as much as we think we do. Capitalism is destroying the planet, which is OUR home. Capitalism destroys families. Capitalism destroys art, beauty, and creation. It’s the devil in my opinion, and yet we see so many people worshipping their money and hoarding it, while neglecting themselves, their partners, their families, and their planet. For what? Why do we really hold on to and desire so much stuff?

Humans > Stuff.

That’s why I’m opening a resell shop that gives back. I’m opening a women’s and children’s consignment shop that supports charities that fight child abuse, domestic violence, and human trafficking. I’ll use my shop as a platform to spread awareness and my message of hope and healing.

I moved Modern Alchemy Healing to the back room of this building and am focusing that business on coaching and helping people figure themselves out. My passion is coaching those who’ve found themselves in neglectful childhoods, victims of child abuse and sexual assault, victims of trafficking and domestic violence, and adult children of alcoholic and narcissistic parents who now find themselves as addicts, perfectionists, and codependents. I like to teach people how to reparent themselves and release their attachment to be pleasing or accommodating to others. I want to help people learn how to stand up for themselves and to reclaim their power from past traumas and hurts. I want to help people heal and learn to recognize the signs of toxic relationships early, so they can learn to avoid them down the road. I want to help people let go, release their anger and grief, and move past the past. It’s holding you back from achieving your potential and being happy right now.

I want to help people escape the rat race and be free from their suffering. Many are walking around confused, lonely, hurt, and isolated. The ways many of us have been taught and programmed to cope with stress are unhealthy. Drugs, alcohol and caffeine included, are a method of escape. Compulsive shopping is a way to escape. Screen addiction is a way to escape. Overworking is a way to escape. These feelings we’re escaping build up and manifest with us as dis-ease. The root cause is always e-motional. When we hide from our e-motions and choose to not face them, we lose. We lose our self-respect. We lose our self-worth. We lose self-esteem, and we feel shame. We lose our power. We become afraid of ourselves because we do not know ourselves. It is impossible to know yourself when all you’ve ever known is fear and survival. The Self, the soul within you, wants to come home and be witnessed. The Self wants you to grow past your fears and hurts and evolve into a greater version. The Self wants you to love. Learn to love yourSelf and let go of your anger, shame, bitterness, pride, and sadness. Our stuck e-motions keep us unhealthy, limited, living in fear, and unhappy.

I genuinely wish more people would wake up and choose love over greed, and choose facing fear over living in cowardice. People think money buys them safety but it does not. People believe their silence is safety but it is not. Silence enables abuse. I believe our pent up emotions from being victimized and silenced are leading to much greater suffering as a whole. As a collective, we are not exactly a healthy species. Why do we continue to allow for mistreatment? We deserve better, and it’s up to us as individuals to take back our power and make it better. No one is coming to save us. If we keep giving our power away to external sources, it will always hold power over us. Choose wisely. It’s not selfish to stand up to unfair treatment. It’s your duty to your Self to love, honor and respect your body, mind, and soul. You don’t have to take it. You don’t have to be a people pleaser. You can say NO. But it starts individually with YOU.

We have many people on this planet who are afraid to say NO. Why? Because we fear. We fear abandonment. We fear rejection. We fear judgement. We fear being shunned.

What did FDR say? “The only thing to fear, is fear itself.”

What is on the other side of your fear? Its FREEDOM. It’s radical self-love and compassion. It’s forgiveness. It’s courage. It’s strength.

Healing is when we choose to love ourselves in spite of the fear of the reaction of others. If you don’t stand up for yourself, no one else will either. We get to choose our reality and how we are treated. Every day is another chance to begin again, leave toxic patterns and relationships, and find your way into the light.

In my healing, I am finding my voice and strength after abuse and trauma. I am finding my way out of the shadows of shame. I am not what has happened to me and it’s all ok. I have accepted it that things happened for my growth and development and I learned from it. I see things from a bigger perspective now, and that brings safety and security. I am grateful for all of life’s experiences, and I forgive those who’ve hurt me. I love all people, I really do. People do hurtful things when they are suffering. It’s not personal. It’s just my responsibility to say no to being used, disrespected, and hurt. I am not ok with being someone else’s scapegoat any longer. You can have your shame back, it is no longer my burden to carry.

As a child, I grew up as the scapegoat in a narcissistic family. I continued that role into my adulthood until I recognized the pattern within me that was programmed to fear speaking up for myself. I needed to learn how to stand up for myself. I needed to learn how to say no, and how to hold boundaries. I needed to learn that it’s ok to distance myself from toxic family members and friends. I needed to learn that I am ok if I am not pleasing to others. I AM enough, just as I AM. I needed to learn that I was worthy. I have, and I AM. You are worthy of it too. I can see it in your eyes.

So if you’re looking for coaching, healing, want to consign your clothes to earn some extra money, want to learn about toxic relationships, want to shop for vintage jeans, then come visit me in the new space. It’s a safe space for all!

And if you're leaving a toxic relationship and need clothing for you or your kids, I want to help you. I’ve been there. Starting over is not easy, especially when financial abuse if involved. Come talk to me, there is no shame, and you’re not alone. We’ll help you get clothes, there are plenty to go around.

I will still be doing sound baths for private events, at the Eagle River library, and will have some small ones in the shop once I’m up and running in a few weeks. Stay tuned!

Thanks for reading, friends. I wish you all many blessings and peace on your journey.

Namaste and be well,

Meg

Mark 9:23